By Meghan Meier
Lasting relationships don’t just happen. As the old saying goes, it takes two to tango. Modern minds might think this phrase refers to the horizontal dance, but it’s also relevant when it comes to explaining how to build and maintain a long-term relationship. No two couples are identical, and trying to create an all-inclusive definition of what it means to be in a relationship is impossible—but figuring out how to sustain this intimate bond is something all couples face but is often overlooked. To keep your relationship from taking a nosedive take some advice from matchmaking expert Taylor Bodine, founder and CEO of Buona Vita.
According to Bodine, a main reason relationships dissolve is because neither party continues to practice what they portrayed when dating. Both sexes must accurately portray themselves while dating to let each person know what they are going to get in the relationship.
In a relationship, arguments are a guarantee, but what counts is how both sides deal with confrontation. One thing a couple should never do is go to bed angry. Also, neither individual should ever bring up the word “divorce” as a defense mechanism. “I think it is very important to resolve conflict as soon as possible, even if it means being quiet and to agree to disagree,” Bodine says. “It is very helpful to exercise [this] because when you are upset, you don’t know really what you are saying and by the time things keep spinning and [you] realize what came out of your mouth, you can’t take it back. You can be apologetic, but the fact of the matter is the person still remembers that. They can forgive you, but they will remember that you went there.”
One would think that a couple in a committed relationship would know every single detail about each other, like whether they want to have children or what type of spender they are. Nevertheless, many couples are unaware of these characteristics even deep into the relationship. For that reason, it is crucial to ask these types of questions early in the relationship. One strategy that can help flesh out these questions is to take part in premarital counseling. It might sound ridiculous, but having an external guide can help a couple find out if they are compatible.
The relationship is not only influenced by what each person wants to get out of it, but also from the day-to-day experiences they face outside their intimate zone. Therefore it is crucial for couples to find a healthy balance between life outside of the relationship and the actual relationship itself. One method Bodine suggests is to “check your armor at the door.” Everyone is busy with work and other obligations throughout the day, but what happens outside of the relationship should remain there. Once a couple walks through the threshold of their own homes, they should leave outside energy at the door and dedicate the remainder of the day to the relationship.
Building a relationship takes time and patience, but what many couples fail to realize is that it requires dedication. It cannot be sustained unless both individuals put as much effort into the existing relationship as they did while dating. One can’t just rely on the holidays to celebrate love. A long-term relationship is a day-in, day-out commitment.
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By Adrienne West
The town of Washington, Virginia, is the first of the 28 Washingtons in the United States and was planned out by George Washington himself in 1749. While the star attraction for years has been the famous Inn at Little Washington restaurant, there other wonderful eateries that bring attention to detail and farm-to-table ingredients to every plate. Main Street is full of shops where you’ll discover that ideal piece for your home or that hard-to-find gift.
9:30 a.m. Start your day like the locals do with the substantial country breakfast rib-eye at The Country Cafe, a homey spot that specializes in “down-home cooking” and Southern hospitality.
Once you’ve grabbed some coffee to go, continue on Main Street to start your shopping just steps away. Find the perfect painting to hang in your home at the Geneva Welch Gallery featuring original works by the namesake artist, or perhaps you’ll find that statement piece for your dining room at R.H. Ballard Shop & Gallery, voted “2013 Best Gift Shop” by Virginia Living Magazine.
1 p.m. With all that shopping, you’ll be ready to sink your teeth into the Cobb salad or French dip sandwich at Tula’s off Main, a quaint cafe that prides itself on using fresh ingredients sourced from local farmers. Finish lunch with a mimosa and continue your purchasing promenade.
2 p.m. Browse through vintage pieces and décor at Rare Finds, and then revel in the wide range of porcelain figurines, vintage furniture and Chinese artifacts at Antiques at Middle Street. Then go to JPC Designs for handcrafted custom wood furniture and accessories for your home in both modern and rustic designs.
4 p.m. Treat yourself with a stop at Wine Loves Chocolate for a daily wine tasting, or fill a box with their artisan truffles, handmade from fair trade cocoa beans.
7:30 p.m. Round the evening out with dinner at Foster Harris House, featuring a prix fixe menu that varies weekly and showcases locally sourced ingredients offered up in their intimate 10-seat dining room.
By Meghan Meier
Comic book stores are sprouting everywhere in NoVA. Whether you are an avid collector or just someone looking to dive into an epic adventure with your favorite superhero or villain, it can be quite the riddle to decipher which comic store best fits your own reading desires. Rest assured, there is no shortage of comic books in sight. But the question remains: Where to go? Here are some local options that will take you to that galaxy far, far away:
Posted by Editorial / Wednesday, January 13th, 2016
By Ainslie Campbell
Kristy and Bill Reynolds are so passionate about craft breweries in Northern Virginia they decided to wear their passion.
“It’s about supporting the craft industry,” Kristy says. “After all, we drink the industry.” After witnessing the collaboration between brewers in Loudoun County, Kristy, a real estate agent in Hamilton, and Bill, the T-shirt designer and an elementary school teacher in Purcellville, started CrafTshirts as a side venture, designing and printing T-shirts with the names of NoVA breweries.
Kristy says keeping up with the demand has been harder than they expected, and they sell both online and during the weekends at breweries. (CrafTshirts will set up at Old 690 Brewing Company in Hillsboro this Saturday.)
This week, CrafTshirts will join with the local brewing community Brewers Against Cancer in support of Forge Brew Works brewer Matt Rose’s wife, Kerri, who was diagnosed with stage 4 stomach cancer last year while pregnant and is currently undergoing immunotherapy. Today is the last day to purchase the #kerriscure T-shirt with 100 percent of sales directed to her medical needs.
By Meghan Meier
Whether you are bored with dinner and a movie or are looking to laugh the winter blues away, NoVA has you covered with open mic hotspots featuring both local comedians and some big names. If you are looking to see your favorite entertainer or just an amateur performer looking to share a few good laughs, check out these venues located throughout NoVA neighborhoods.
“I’ve been training for the Chardonnay 1K.”
“Succulents are very in right now.”
“They only took out three displays today.”
“When he grows up, he wants to be an Uber driver.”